Lessons From T-ball: Overcoming Fear
Don't let your egos get in the way of a free education
In construction, we expect that all of our field people will continue to improve. But, sometimes, the growth just stops. So, the question that must be asked is, "Why?" Could it have something to do with fear of success? Fear of failure? New insight actually came to me while watching, of all things, a T-ball game.
Fear keeps some of us from growing. But I learned a simple lesson or two on overcoming fear, just by watching a game of fearless, pure baseball, as practiced and played by a group of first-graders.
Think about the parallels between you and a T-baller. What does a first-grader worry and think about?
- Family in the stands, even though Mom and Dad are cheering him on to victory
- Knows his teammates are counting on him, and doesn't want to perform poorly and embarrass himself
- His coaches, and how to satisfy them
- Getting invited to Freddie's birthday party next week after the big game
- Above all, not getting to first base.
- Family has high hopes for this promotion
- Brand new "team" is counting on him, and PM doesn't want to embarrass himself by not performing
- His boss is expecting great things
- Fitting in with all of the office politics and its social scene
- Striking out and not even getting close to first base.
- He hits off a "tee" when he is first learning the game. For those unfamiliar, picture a baseball tee as a three-foot golf tee that the baseball sits on, stationary, so the batter can hit it. No fastballs, high, hard and inside. No brush-back pitches. First half of the season, everyone hits only off of the tee.
- Second half of the season, the player gets a few swings at a ball tossed softly by his coach. If he doesn't connect on any of these three pitches, he hits off the tee. Most of the kids miss the coach's pitches, and have to go back to the tee. Part of the game, no embarrassment.
- Next season, as a second-grader, there is no tee, but just "coach pitch." Soft tosses to a kid who now has better hand-and-eye coordination.
- Season three, our third-grader finally faces an opposing pitcher, but only after a couple of years of practice.
Let's look now at our rookie PM who has the title, but has never practiced, never grown. How does he learn the game?
- He tees it up, too. He has studied the game and knows that certain issues present themselves as absolute gimmies: The architect sends out a bulletin and notes a change to the plans and specs. All our batter has to do is put it on his "tee" by writing an RFI and saying, "It's not ours. What should we do?" And the architect/CM will have to ask him to price it out. It's a hit!
- Many times, the opportunities are not that easy, but are still like a slow-pitched softball. Like when you suggest a substitution or maybe some value engineering, and your company picks up a little extra for the bottom line. An easy hit.
- After a while, you begin to get a little confidence. The next time the project superintendent asks when you are going to do such and such, you write an RFI explaining that "such and such" is not in your scope of work, because it is not in either the contract or the project specs. Wow, a stand-up double!
- Now that you've gotten a little experience, you'll be able to tackle even more challenging issues. Maybe the issue isn't really clear cut or black and white, but you take a shot at it anyway. Sometimes you win, sometimes you don't. But you are always excited to take your turn at bat. And, you'll get your fair share. You'll at least get to first base.
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About the Author
Gary Micheloni is a working project manager, speaker, author, consultant and coach. He has severals years of industry experience, including a background as a licensed general engineering contractor. For further information and insight on the Full Contact Project Management approach, write Coach Gary at FullContactTeam@gmail.com.
Copyright 2008 Gary Micheloni